tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1526841595062600530.post1799180894070862386..comments2023-10-29T09:04:35.518-07:00Comments on Colloquial Minutiae: Hypochondria 101 & The Unfortunate Power of StrangersNataliehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02861048369439082860noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1526841595062600530.post-28699806740314213082014-03-03T22:45:00.314-08:002014-03-03T22:45:00.314-08:00Thanks, Mindy! :D I am feeling better! I didn'...Thanks, Mindy! :D I am feeling better! I didn't end up going too short-- maybe next time, haha. It's just a blunt cut to my shoulders!Nataliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02861048369439082860noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1526841595062600530.post-40245094669202486322014-03-02T15:30:23.864-08:002014-03-02T15:30:23.864-08:00I really love the look of your blog - it is so cut...I really love the look of your blog - it is so cute!!! Less happy to hear about your not so good day, but I hope that you're feeling better! I want to see pics of this new hairstyle, by the way ;)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15027491201051205557noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1526841595062600530.post-55646415212116188012014-02-26T18:40:37.706-08:002014-02-26T18:40:37.706-08:00Okay, firstly, I just have to say that that was th...Okay, firstly, I just have to say that that was the least high-horse, self-righteous comment ever! I definitely did not and do not think you're coming from that place at all.<br /><br />I've never heard of the "highly sensitive person," thing-- I didn't even know it WAS a thing, so this is very interesting to me. I've just always known that I'm the type of person who will cry if you look at her wrong. Also, I'm very introverted (although people often mistake me as extroverted)-- so that probably doesn't help. I've always thought I was probably something in the DSM-V, but I'll definitely check out the HSP things you recommend before I go self-diagnosing from the manual. ;)<br /><br />Yes-- recognizing self-worth can certainly be a battle. I'm often very mean to myself; in fact, I always have been. There have been times where I have tried to stop that behavior, but it always seems to sneak back in little by little, until it's simply right back again. I try to be more conscious/aware of the things I say to myself, but it doesn't always work. Sometimes it does. You're right, it is easier said than done, but hopefully someday I'll be able to get there. <br /><br />Thank you for taking the time to leave such a thoughtful comment, I really appreciate it. <br /><br />I'll definitely look into the books you suggest, they'll definitely open up a whole new perspective for me. And yes, thanks! I am feeling better and back to normal-- for the most part, haha. :) <br /><br />Thanks again!<br />Nataliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02861048369439082860noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1526841595062600530.post-52766463126772430402014-02-26T18:00:16.106-08:002014-02-26T18:00:16.106-08:00I am sorry that woman's words had such a negat...I am sorry that woman's words had such a negative impact on you. I am guilty of letting other people ruin my day with their insensitivity, lack of empathy/compassion or plain rudeness or hatefulness. <br /><br />That being said, I am going to say some things that are just my opinion. <br /><br />If you would like to stop feeling this way or improve the way you feel when something like this happens, I suggest a few things:<br /><br />First, you need to realize and accept that you are what a psychologist would call a "highly sensitive person". You sound like you already know this about yourself, but it might be worth Googling/researching anyway. There are some awesome psychologists out there who have some great books analyzing the qualities of HSP, from people who are emotionally sensitive, physically sensitive or both. Oftentimes, these things go hand and hand, but not always. This has nothing to do with introversion, but sometimes being a HSP that is also introverted doesn't necessarily help. <br /><br />Also, I wouldn't say that you need a thicker-skin exactly, but you need to recognize that you are an amazing, intelligent, beautiful and POWERFUL person who has worth and value. While this is easier said than done, I think most of us forget that we have tons of personal power if we only love and believe in ourselves. When you truly accept and love who you are, you are less likely to let others take the power of that love away from you. Cruelty, while it still gets to you, doesn't stay with you nearly as long. You get to a place where things still might upset you a bit, but you are able to brush them off and forget about them more easily. <br /><br />I am not coming from a high-horse or trying to be self-righteous. I don't like telling anyone how to live or how to feel. I am just writing from my own experience, in the hope that you might be able to take away something helpful and/or positive from what I am saying. I hate to see when other beautiful, good-natured and awesome people, let someone insignificant take away their self power and self love. Again, I know it's easier said than done, but it just isn't worth it. <br /><br />Being highly sensitive is not a bad thing. There are lots of great books including Emotional Intelligence and The Highly Sensitive Person written by psychologists/doctors that can help you learn to love this quality about yourself. These books point out why being HSP is a good thing and why it should be embraced. They are also helpful in guiding you/your life into areas that will not be upsetting and overwhelming for you. <br /><br />I know it's new-agey, but Eckhart Tolle also has some great titles and if you have not read Don Miguel Ruiz's "The 4 Agreements", please give it a look. <br /><br />I hope you are back to yourself and feeling better. :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com